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My Partner Won't Go to Therapy: What to Do When You Want Help and They're Not Ready You've thought about it for weeks, maybe months. You've watched your relationship go through the same patterns, the same escalation, the same hurt feelings that never quite resolve. You've decided you want help. And when you bring it up to your partner — they shut the idea down. If this is where you are right now, you're far from alone. As a couples counsellor here in Coquitlam, this is one of

Car accidents are jarring, even the ones that seem minor. One moment you're going about your day, and the next you're dealing with a whiplash injury, an insurance claim, and a nervous system that just won't settle down. If you've been in a collision in British Columbia, you may already know about ICBC. What you might not know is that ICBC can cover your counselling sessions — and that therapy can be one of the most important steps in your recovery. At Feel Good Counselling in

Many people are curious about trauma therapy but aren't quite sure what to expect. Some worry they'll be overwhelmed or would have to relive painful memories. Others wonder if they'll need to talk about things they're not ready to share. If you're considering trauma therapy, it's completely normal and natural to have questions. The truth is that trauma therapy often looks and feels different from what you might expect. Many clients seek trauma therapy because they feel anxiou

Why is Anxiety Worse at Night? (And What You Can Do to Calm Your Nervous System) If you’ve ever noticed your anxiety gets worse just as you’re trying to wind down for the night, you’re not alone. Many people find that their thoughts become louder, their body feels more restless, and their worries are harder to manage at night. As a counsellor here in Coquitlam, BC, I often hear my clients wondering why nighttime makes it so much harder to manage their anxiety and worries. If

Is Your Anxiety Actually Unresolved Trauma? Trauma & Anxiety Counselling in Coquitlam, BC If you struggle with anxiety, you might have asked yourself: “Why does this feel so intense—even when nothing is wrong?” For many people, anxiety isn’t just about stress or overthinking. It can be connected to past experiences or trauma that your nervous system hasn’t fully processed. This is where anxiety and trauma often overlap. What Is The Connection Between Anxiety And Trauma? Traum

There’s a common belief that couples counselling is a last resort—something you turn to only when things feel broken beyond repair. But in reality, many couples begin counselling not because they’re failing, but because they care deeply about their relationship and want things to feel better. If you’ve been wondering whether it might be time to reach out for support, you’re not alone. Here are some gentle signs that couples counselling could help. 1. You’re having the same ar

By Olga Barrows, MA, CCC January 2026 Anxiety has become a part of our daily lives - at least for a lot of us. Worries about the future, finances, family or the state of our very chaotic modern world now accompany us on a regular basis. Sometimes these worries start getting out of control and become difficult to manage. At other times, we move beyond worry and into the realm of anxiety: ongoing, uncontrollable, and intrusive. Often we think about anxiety as a negative way of

by Olga Barrows, MA, CCC January 2026 PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, can be a deeply seated factor affecting our quality of life, our relationships, friendships, and career. Trauma plays a significant role in how we ultimately respond to interactions, events and stresses in life. Carrying unprocessed trauma within ourselves does not come for free. We pay for the unaddressed pain - with our own reactions that feel out of control, overwhelming or sometimes scary. As a

December 10, 2025 by Olga Barrows, MA, CCC With technology being a part of our daily lives, we are so used to interacting online. Technology has shaped how we interact with everyone - and that includes your therapist. Connecting with your counsellor online is now as easy as calling a friend or ordering groceries. Click, dial - and done! With this accessible way of connecting, are we trading the value of a face-to-face connection for comfort and convenience? Does anything real